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A Little Competition Never Hurt Anyone?

September 25, 2018



Why hello there! How are you?!


First of all, welcome to all my new subscribers...its amazing how many people actually subscribe to this blog with me slacking and all (I REALLY NEED TO DO BETTER!). I continue to make promises on when I'll write blog posts, but frankly sometimes, I'm just not inspired to write about anything; I wouldn't exactly say it's writers block though. I just like to wait until the time is right...but I'll work on doing better and being more in tune with my feelings so that I can crank some blog posts out! Anyway, lets get to the post. For the past few weeks the word competition has been floating around in my head and I have a few things I'd like to get off my chest. Disclaimer: We have all been guilty of this at some point in our lives. You may currently be guilty of this...no shade. But if the glove fits, and you can't acquit (lol), try to take heed to some of the things I have written; it's only meant to help you.


competition noun

com·pe·ti·tion | \ ˌkäm-pə-ˈti-shən\

: active demand by two or more organisms or kinds of organisms for some environmental resource in short supply.


Recently I've come to grips that this world truly revolves on the concept of "Dog Eat Dog." Think about it, everyone is always trying to get one up on someone else. Don't get me wrong, healthy competition is great and it keeps you on your toes! The problem lies in people who silently compete against others, letting their silent battle turn into a debilitating activity. It's human nature to want to be the best, but when does the desire to be number one lead to your demise? I'll tell you when: When you stop focusing on yourself and devote all of your time and energy fixating on what someone else is doing; all so you can [attempt]  to do it better.


This summer I wrote a blog post about manifesting your own destiny. There was something I pointed out there, that applies to this post as well: Realize that no one can take away what is meant for you. If you are meant to get that job, then you shouldn't have to compete with others. Do what YOU need to do, and it will be. Now you may not get what you want every time, but eventually, if it was meant for you....it will be yours!


If you aren't your only competition, then something is wrong. 



Before you tell me to get off my soap box, remember that this blog serves as somewhat of a personal diary; meaning I have dabbled in the art of silent competition as well. I used to spend so much time disliking random people who had what I wanted and trying to be better than them, that I lost sight of my ultimate goals! But here's the good news, nothing is more satisfying than creating your OWN LANE; and competing with YOURSELF! Now I constantly ask myself, how I can do things better (experiments, etc.) so that I can continue to be better. If I just so happen to leave people in my dust, then that's just a plus...and leaves MORE ROOM FOR ME TO DO MY THING, IN MY OWN LANE (joking....but not joking lol)! It's sort of like minding your business. When I take time to focus on how I can improve on my game, I find that there is no need for me to compete with others.


& hey, if we're being completely honest, there is enough room for everyone, and really no need to compete at all. 


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