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Love Yourself...not your selfie. #TheSelfLoveMovement

January 15, 2018



You're on picture number 200, and still haven't captured the most flattering picture. Now there could be two reasons for this: Either you really just suck at the perfect selfie angle...or there is something that you see in yourself that you truly don't like.


For me, it's a variation of both! Let me explain, when I take selfies— and I have taken THOUSANDS, I always have to do something with my face; writing this I just realized that I have never taken a plain ol' picture of my face and liked it. I either make an expression (silly..or even sultry when I'm feeling feisty), tilt my face, apply a filter, or use the infamous "distraction hand"......it's endless with me. Recently, someone told me that I slightly open my mouth in most of my pictures. I rushed to my instagram to prove them wrong, only to find that a majority of my pictures were some variation of my mouth slightly cracked open! Idk what it is but poses like this make me feel so beautiful in the pictures I post...when really all I'm doing is catching flies lol.


Anyway, last year I started #TheSelfLoveMovement and while I have been practicing a few affirmations...I still haven't seen the results that I have been looking for; unconditional, unapologetic, and confident INNER beauty and self-love. Since I started the journey I have finally become comfortable with being seen without makeup (I can count the times I have worn makeup in the last year), and I have learned to be a little more comfortable with being alone..with myself and my thoughts (still working out the kinks on this one). 


So this leads to the purpose of this post. I know that I can't be the only one going through this. I think think that we all put on a great facade on social media, but some people are truly crying for help and suffering behind closed doors like I was. Don't wait until you lose that weight, or perfect your makeup skills; face your fears and start now! Here are a few more affirmations that you can say and BELIEVE on your journey to self-love. Join me in saying at least one or two of these affirmations a number of time throughout your day. When times get rough, or when you feel your lowest, repeat these affirmations. Inhale through your nose, exhale through your mouth, and repeat after me:



"I am beautiful just as I am."


"In a world full of choices I choose me."


"The only approval I'll ever need is my own."


"I am worthy of love and joy."


"I will rid myself of negative thoughts"


"I love myself.”




Finally, I leave you with one of my favorite quotes from The Help by Kathryn Stockett:


"You is kind. You is smart. You is important."

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