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January 30, 2017

"It takes time to be who you really want to be; it doesn't happen overnight."

                                                                                                                                                                                                            -Chanel Iman





I've always had trouble committing to my self-love journey because it never produced immediate results, but NOTHING happens overnight.  I used the past two weeks to finally think about the meaning of self-love. It is forgiving, patient, kind and most importantly, unconditional. There are so many factors that can cause a person to falter during their self-love journey. For me, they are beauty, self-esteem and self-confidence. For the first time, I've successfully hit the ground running on my journey to self-love. Here are some affirmations that I've found to be useful and seem to be helping me stay on the right path...



1. Contrary to popular belief, beauty cannot be packaged. 

Why do we place so much value on beauty? No amount of makeup or surgical enhancements can make you beautiful. As cliché as it may sound, real beauty comes from within. There will always be someone who is prettier, more popular, or even wealthier than you; but they aren't YOU!  Concentrate on inner beauty; exude positivity and optimism! Do you show compassion to others? Are you generous? Are you selfish or selfless?


2. Stop the comparisons. 

Comparing yourself to others is undoubtedly one of the first steps to throwing a full blown pity party. It took me years to understand that nothing on social media is real. People (including myself) only upload the things they want you to see. You are an ORIGINAL. Why would you want to be a cheap imitation of someone else?? Here's another way to think of it...if you are prepared to take on the life portrayed on someone's Instagram, be prepared to also take on the hardships in that person's life that aren't broadcasted on the internet!


3. Take care of Y-O-U. 

You will flourish once you begin to take care of yourself; mind, body and soul. In order for a seed to grow, it needs to be watered; so drink water! Hydrate yourself! Water provides energy and keeps the body healthy! Get cute to go to the gas station or grocery store! Just because you aren't going to the Academy Awards doesn't mean you can't get dressed with a purpose! Keep your space and mind clear and full of positivity. Confidence should radiate through you and if you're still not feeling it, don't reinvent the wheel; just fake it til' you make it!!


4. Realize your worth.

Lack of self-worth is the biggest adversary to self-love. No one should determine how you feel about yourself. Simply put, what other people think about you is none of your business; you control your mentality. If you are constantly down playing your self-worth, you will continue to feel worthless; and no one is worthless. Poor self-worth can lead to the demise of any relationship you have before it even starts. It causes you to feel broken even when you desperately want to be happy. It causes you to neglect what you deserve and stay in toxic relationships. No matter what anyone says, YOU ARE WORTH IT! Know it, eat it, breathe it!


5. Embrace your "flaws." 

Stop apologizing for who you are. Everyone has flaws. As humans, we are constantly working on ourselves, abandoning bad habits and establishing new ones. However, it is important to know that your imperfections are what make you, YOU. They are what make you "perfect."


6. You can't hurry love.

How can you possibly love someone else if you don't love yourself? I am finally coming to grips with this; trying so hard to find love with everyone but myself is exactly what led me to this moment. Unfortunately no measure of love from anyone is worth more than the love you can give to yourself. Everyone has a soulmate, just take this time to work on yourself so that when the time comes you can open yourself up to love.



Do you have any self-affirmations? #TheSelfLoveMovement

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